A return to Domesticity

 There is a new trend in society, and I think it's something to embrace and encourage. The return to domesticity. It seems there is a steady upward climb in women who are taking up domestic hobbies. Sewing your own things is now very chic, and taking cake decorating is all the rage. Aprons are the new hot accessory, and cooking blogs are on the rise due to the demand for step by step instructions on how to make the perfect meal. 
 It's nice to know that there are women who are interested in learning these skills. Though it is curious why now? I decided to do a little digging and found a magazine article from moxiemag.com said 
" Dr. Gilda Carle, a relationship expert and professor of psychology and communications at New York's Mercy College. Carle views the return to June Cleever as a natural backlash to the women's liberation movement several decades ago, a complicated response to the notion that they could do or be anything they wanted when they grew up- anything, that is, except become a stay-at-home Mom. 

Carle does not see their desire to stay home as an anti-feminist choice. Feminism plays an obvious part in their decisions and desires. Members of the first generation of grown-up latchkey kids, many of them came home to an empty house after school or spent hours waiting at a daycare for their working parents to pick them up. 

"Women ran into the workplace - almost on a dare - saying yes, we can do it! And who suffered? The children," Carle explains. "These women do not want their kids to feel the way they did, growing up." 

 I had to read this a few times and thought it made a lot of sense. "The generation of grown-up latchkey children" are  trying to ensure they don't do to their families what was done to them. I also think the ability to use your domestic skills at home and still make a profit off those said skills has an effect. With sites like etsy and craigslist you can easily sell your homemade goods and with facebook and other networking sites all of a sudden your items can become well known and sought after.

 It's not just the domestic skills that are coming back but the styles too. Besides the frilly aprons, tea length skirts/dresses are back and even hats probably thanks to the new Princess Kate Middleton. I think this is just great and while I'm certainly not giving up my levis anytime soon, I think the return of a little femininity into everyday is just what society needs.

 Well even the Stout's are returning to domesticity though I think we're ahead of the times (how often do you say that?). Not that we weren't domestic before but with the home grown wheat, and the newly acquired milk cow we're well on our way to returning to the "good ol days" I for one think anything that will make me more like my ancestors is good for me! If it's good enough for my 92 year old grandma it's good enough for me.

Cindy's funeral and our Christmas letter from 2004- This was the talk I gave at the grave side service.

Since people were asking me for copies of this I thought I would share it on the blog. Some of you might remember it from your Christmas cards.

Uncle Garth is in Stage 4 cancer and was in Chemotherapy. He was pretty sick at Cindy's funeral. We need to keep him in our prayers.

Dear Family and Friends,                                                                                                                                                    Christmas 2004

      We hope you and your family are well and happy this Christmas season. We feel especially blessed this year.

      Many of you know that our eighth child, Joseph Michael Bryce was born last January (see picture). He was born one month early with Down syndrome. Fortunately, although he was weak at first, his health is good and he’s sitting and using his hands very well. We've reflected a lot on Joseph and his condition. After all the thoughts, prayers, and pondering, the one simple conclusion we've come to, the one truth we now believe with all our hearts, is simply this: Joseph’s condition is a GIFT. For Joseph, it means he will be free from so many of the cares of the world. He will live out his life with no guile, with no unkind thoughts. Our gift is that we have the joy of this little angel in our midst. This has a marvelous effect. It makes all of us want to be a little better, to reach a little higher, to love a little deeper, to be a little more grateful.

      We didn't reach these realizations all at once. It's been a slowly unfolding understanding of what has happened in our family. Others understood much better even before we did. Over 2000 years ago, as Mary and Joseph were taking the baby Jesus to the temple to "present him to the Lord," they encountered Simeon there. Simeon had been promised that he should not taste death before he had seen the Lord's Christ. When Simeon saw the Savior, he tenderly "took him up in his arms, and blessed God, and said, ‘Lord, now lettest thou thy servant depart in peace, according to thy word. For mine eyes have seen thy salvation, which thou hast prepared before the face of all people; a light to lighten the Gentiles, and the glory of thy people Israel.’” Then the key point: “And Joseph and his mother marveled at those things which were spoken of him (Luke 2:28-33, KJV).” It was as if Jesus' parents knew, but didn't fully understand, and this caused them to marvel.

      Joseph was still very young when we attended church with Angelyn’s family in Southern Utah one weekend. Her Uncle Garth was there. Garth had grown up with his sister Cindy, now in her fifties, who also has Down syndrome. As we sat down in the chapel, Garth, a large, masculine man, eagerly asked if he could hold Joseph. As Angelyn handed him over, Garth took him into his arms ever so tenderly, as if he were a most precious and priceless treasure. As he held him close, tears welled up in his eyes. He thought of Cindy and tenderly whispered, "she taught us how to love …  she taught us how to love." Then he gently rocked Joseph, holding him close with those tears on his cheeks. As we looked upon this tender scene, which went on for several minutes, tears flowed for us too. We don't know when we have ever seen a more tender display of pure love. And this was for our son! We longed to love him as much as Garth seemed to love him. But Garth also seemed to know something about him that we didn't know, something that we couldn't even understand. Garth was our Simeon that day, and it caused us to marvel.

      We think now our family has caught a small glimpse of what Garth already knows: that Joseph will teach us how to love in ways we can't even imagine.

      Everyone else is doing great. Please come and see us in Provo when you can. May the joy of the season and love of the Savior sink deep into all of our hearts this Christmas season.

      Love, David, Angelyn, Rick, Anna, Abby, Rex, Emerald, Megan, John, and Joseph